Psychology behind awkward silences

Psychology behind awkward silences

          Sometimes when people talk to each other there is an awkward pause or silent moment. At some point in people’s life, they will experience a lot of these moments until one thing happens.

          What needs to happen to end awkward silences? People need to develop confidence.

          Silent moments occur because two insecure individuals are simultaneously acknowledging their own insecurity. Ironically, each individual blames themselves for the awkward silence. In reality, both individuals are not culpable. Only one individual is truly responsible for the awkward silence.

          Why is one individual responsible for the awkward silence? In every conversation, someone is naturally a little more secure than the person they are talking to. The person with the most security is responsible for guiding the conversation because they have a much more stable foundation to lead in general.

          When the person with the most security (or confidence) don’t lead the conversation, that person is expressing their insecurity. By taking this action, the entire conversation is wasted for both individuals.

          Insecurity is attracted to security. Security is attracted to itself through insecurity. By not coming together properly in discourse, neither party benefits. In conclusion, awkward silences are normal unless you are more confident and secure than the person you are talking to.