Psychology behind mentoring

Psychology behind mentoring

          A great mentor must have an amazing short term impact and an amazing long term impact on their followers.

          In the short term, mentors are technically manipulating their followers. They do this by exposing the follower to so much information causing the follower to feel overwhelmed by their own lack of knowledge. This feeling will eventually cause the follower to feel insecure about themselves and seek security in the mentor. So in the short term, the follower, or prodigy, is the slave to the mentor while gulping lots of knowledge.

          In the long term, the prodigy will gradually become more confident and secure in themselves. This is usually due to the mentor natural tendency to start repeating principles over and over. At this point, the follower realizes that the mentor have nothing else to teach because their job is done. The follower also realizes that they have become a new and improved individual as a result of having the mentor in their life. But at this very moment, the bond the follower had with the mentor will now be broken and the follower will go on to one day be a mentor to someone else.

          Mentoring is a quality cycle. The best way to become the best version of yourself is by transforming with the help of a mentor. Despite all that mentors know, they can’t teach forever. At some point they will reach a limit. This is the moment when prodigies become an offspring of someone else’s knowledge and wisdom. Similarly, reading a variety of books have this same effect. After reading several books by one author, we eventually learn all they can know and move on to another author. To continue to invest in a mentor after they’ve climaxed would be out of faith in them reaching new levels in the immediate future. This is usually seen when dealing with the emotion called love. Most prodigies don’t love their mentors, although they do show their appreciation by passing on their knowledge and wisdom.

          Mentoring others is self-fulfilling because it is the final step after you’ve reached a pentacle of becoming self-fulfilled. When you’ve become the strongest version of yourself, you will start to see a diminishing return effect. This means that becoming a little better is of little value to you. In fact, helping others become better will be of more value to you, thus you begin to mentor.

          Similar to prodigies, mentors are truly selfish. They only want to help others because helping makes them feel good now. Because prior in their life, they’ve helped themselves so much that they’ve become imbalance. Helping others in the last half of their life is their way of balancing out their entire life. By doing so, mentors can die knowing they’ve lived a meaningful life because it was perfectly balanced.

         

          Carnegie had a great plan when he said he would spend the first half of his life making money and the second half of his life giving it all away. He understood the psychology and cycle of mentoring.