Psychology behind guilt

Psychology behind guilt

          Guilt is the result of lying to other people. People lie to other people in two ways and two ways only. They either say lies with their mouth or express lies with their body language.

          To have guilt is to be normal. To have a lot of guilt is to be emotionally unstable. Too much guilt is not healthy for the body and mind.

          When people feel guilty, their body will undergo physiological changes and people will respond in unusual or abnormal ways. People can sense a change in your normal behavior even when people may not know you well enough to understand your normal behavior. This is because the subconscious is coming through and the conscious is shutting down.

          Most people feel miserable because of their guilt. And since guilt is created by lying, people feel miserable because they lied. Thus, the truth will set you free from negative emotions.

          The ultimate goal when handling guilt is to maintain as little guilt as possible. The less guilt you have, the less you beat yourself up. The less you beat yourself up, the more emotional control you have. The more emotional control you have, the more emotional freedom you can express. And to be guilty means to not be free.

Psychology behind creating confidence

Psychology behind creating confidence

          Confidence is the result of sufficient preparation. Most people are not confident because they have not prepared enough in the past to be confident in the present moment.

          To be confident means to be secure. To be secure means to take action so that you are not insecure. To be insecure means to not be confident. To not be confident means to not be prepared.

          The actions we take in the present moment will either strengthen our security or insecurity in a future moment. Thus, to be confident now would mean that there was a past investment in this present moment that resulted in the current confidence.

          How can insecure people become confident now? Insecure people cannot become confident in this present moment. However, insecure people can prepare and become secure in a future moment. By doing so, they will be creating confidence.

          Confidence is the result of a long term investment. And to invest in one area means to not invest in another area. Paradoxically, confident individuals are insecure in areas in which they did not invest. Also, insecure people are confident in the fact that they are insecure.

          Thus to be confident or to not be confident is a matter of choice and what you choose to be secure and insecure in. Most people biasedly assume that confident individuals are secure in everything. This is not true. Confident individuals are typically secure in things most people are typically insecure in. Due to the imbalance of secure to insecure ratio of that particular area of interest, confident people appear more confident than average.

          This appearance lead to the foundation of the halo effect. The halo effect is when one quality of an individual is magnified so greatly that their bad traits go unnoticed. As a result confident individuals don’t appear normal. But in reality, all confident people are normal. The only difference is the particular area of interest in which confident people prepared to become secure.

Psychology behind not complaining

Psychology behind not complaining

          Complaining is a cry for emotional stability. Thus, to complain means to be emotionally unstable. Most people that complain are victims. Victims never succeed by blaming. Indirectly blaming is considered complaining.

          The less you complain, the more stable your emotions are. Thus, not complaining is an optimal strategy when endeavoring to become stronger emotionally.

          The benefits of not complaining result in acceptance and peace with the world. Everything have good qualities and bad qualities but choosing to not complain about the bad qualities will come from a place of gratitude. To have an attitude of gratitude is to not complain.

          Complaining is detrimental to the individual complaining. It is the act of self-victimization. Victims must always be rescued by a force outside their control.

          Most of the things most people complain about are outside their control. Logically, if you can’t control something, you should not invest your emotions in it. By doing so, you would be allowing an external force to control how you feel. Thus, you will not be in control of your own feelings and emotions. An effective way to exhibit control of your emotions is the opposite of complaining, or not complaining.