Psychology behind relationship bonds

Psychology behind relationship bonds

 

          People feel closer to individuals that can feel closer to them. The more someone congruently like you for you, the more likely you are to like them for them. This liking of each other is called a bond, and every relationship with a foundation of shared interests have a bond.

 

          The strength of a relationship bond is contingent upon the freedom of both individual’s hearts. When we are honest about how feel in the present moment, we are freeing our heart. The more freedom our heart have when interacting with certain people, the stronger the bond we have with them. If they reciprocate the depth of our honesty, the overall relationship bond can grow stronger.

 

          How can people free their hearts? This requires practice. People must practice being congruent. To be congruent is to have your nonverbal communication in alignment with your verbal communication. This is a true expression of honesty, especially when nothing is withheld in the present moment. When nothing is withheld in the present moment, people are being vulnerable. The more vulnerable you are to others, the more vulnerable others can be with you. This is not manipulation, but communication. To maximize intimacy, both parties must be congruent. And when both parties are congruent, their hearts are free.

 

          How can relationship bonds become stronger? Relationship bonds can only become stronger when people have more courage to honestly express their vulnerability. People must be willing to put their trust in others in order for them to be trusted. The more trust you can build within your relationships, the more loyalty you’ve created. The depth of loyalty is directly proportional to the strength of a relationship bond.